Has our fast-paced Bluetooth, iPad, Blackberry, cellphone-driven society caused us to become boorish, rude, and generally uncivil toward one another? From rage-road during pre-dawn commutes to high decibel cell phone conversations in the theatre during a movie, to men and women just simply behaving badly (watch
Jersey Shore - on second thought -
don't), to the increasing use of foul and vulgar language on TV, it seems we have become a people who have lost our manners somewhere along the way.
So where do we turn for help from our 21st-century perspective? How about the 18th-century and George Washington? My friends, Dawn and Larry, gave me a small booklet recently entitled, "
George Washington's Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation." (Now, let's not examine
why they gifted me with this booklet: that's not the point of this post!)
The Father Of Our Country offers some interesting insights on how we should act and behave. A great deal of his maxims are very wise, some feel fussy to us, some are humorous, and some just thankfully are no longer civility challenges in our 21st century ("Kill no vermin as fleas, lice, ticks, etc. in the sight of others."). On second thought, that may be something a few of us need to heed...
But I digress. What the dictums do bring is a focus - particularly toward others - that becomes increasingly hard to find today. While all 110 rules may be
read on-line here, allow me to share with you a few of my favorites.
- Sleep not when others speak, sit not when others stand, speak not when you should hold your peace, walk not on when others stop.
- Show not yourself glad at the misfortune of another though he were your enemy.
- Let your discourse with men of business be short and comprehensive.
- In visiting the sick, be not the physician if you be not knowing...
- Do not express joy before one sick or in pain for that contrary passion will aggravate his misery.
- If you deliver anything witty and pleasant abstain from laughing thereat yourself.
- Play not the peacock, looking everywhere about you, to see if you be well decked, if your shoes fit well, if your stockings sit neatly, and cloths handsomely.
- Be not immodest in urging your friends to discover a secret.
- Be not apt to relate news if you know not the truth thereof.
See what I mean? Although the language is stodgy-sounding to our ears, the wisdom is timeless. And our society would be much-the-better if we began listening to George again.
Oh, and by the way Larry and Dawn, next time I'm over at your house for a meal, I promise to obey rule number 90: Being set at meat, scratch not, neither spit, cough or blow your nose - except there's a necessity for it.